While parents strive for their children to gain knowledge, it is important to consider that teaching them through example is the best way to learn. The three key points in developing a child’s intellect include:
Listening shows respect for the person that is talking. At a young age, children learn to listen through listening to bedtime stories. Comprehension questions about what they have read shows they were paying attention. When you give instructions as a parent, you might ask the child to repeat back what you have said. Not only does this prove whether or not the child was listening; but it also shows respect. Also, confirm that your child understands what is being said to or asked of them. Asking the child whether or not they understand what they heard is essential. Children can also practice listening skills by listening to music. When children practice listening to song lyrics like The Wheels on the Bus or 5 Little Monkeys Jumping on the Bed, they begin to understand that words have meaning. At first, the words to the song may seem arbitrary to the child; but eventually the child comes to understand that the words to the song tell a story.
How can a child admire the world around them and the talents of others? By showing children the many talents, works, and beauty of the earth, it teaches them to stop and pause. It makes a child think and appreciate the good things in life. If you take a child to an art museum, what they see in the painting might be different from what you see. A child might admire a teacher because of the knowledge they receive. A child might admire a parent because the lessons, experiences, and memories that were shown to them. Children learn the beauty of the earth, if they are shown the beauty of their surroundings, this could be the animals, the mountains, the ocean, and the stars. Over time, children can begin to appreciate things in their lives. For example, your child may appreciate a certain song for its calming effects, or even music in general for the effect it can have on your child’s mood. It is a sense of wonder and mystery to admire through a child’s eyes.
When it comes to reason, children should know the truth. Television does not always show the truth, which can give them a false reality of things. However quality television shows that promote learning and reason are encouraged. It is important to point out the truth if a lie is shown in the media. Logical thinking can be shown through proper grammar for example. Give them a reason for why a decision may hurt someone. All of these teach children to think. Keep the child’s age in mind with reasoning. When you show children by example, that is when they are learning.
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With the start of each new year, many people contemplate the goals they want to accomplish. A journal is a great place to write down our goals. There are several different areas in your life in which setting goals would be beneficial to you and your family. Some examples include
Sometimes goals can be stressful or we don’t think we will complete them. If we take it one day at a time we can complete them, we have to also work on them. Education goals could be finishing up school, or starting college. For one of your children, an education goal might be to raise his or her grade point average. Career could mean you want to get promoted, so you could see what you could do to earn that. Switching jobs also might be an option. Financial goals might be to pay off your debt in a certain amount of time, or create an emergency savings account. Psychology today says, “Research shows that actually setting a specific goal makes us more likely to achieve the things we want, and is important especially when we want to make a change.”
Family goals can be things you want for your family to achieve with each member having the opportunity to contribute. The ACPeds Lead Your Family to Good Health page is a good place to start looking for family health goals you may want your family to to beging working on. Examples include
- Strengthen your family by nurturing your marriage. Invest TIME with your spouse: dates, walks/strolls, talk time, etc. Your child will benefit.
- Teach good sleep habits by having a regular bedtime routine with a reasonable “lights out” time. No TV in the bedroom, please!
- Teach and practice healthful family eating habits. Limit fast food. Serve vegetables and fruit at meals and snacks daily. Model healthful eating yourself.
- Turn the television off often and limit total screen time (TV, video games, computer) to no more than 1-2 hours per day. You’ll be pleased with the conversations that develop.
- Get outside with your child. Take a walk in the neighborhood, go fishing, go cycling, play a recreational sport, plant a garden . . .
- Be involved in your child’s life. Coach a team, drive car pool, be a room mom or dad, teach Sunday School, get to know his/her friends . . .
- Protect your child’s mind. Monitor TV programs, scrutinize movies (even at a friend’s home), and place an Internet filter on your computer.
Attitude goals can include trying not to get upset or angry at your family or finding more ways you can be nice to your family. If your family does not serve you, you can choose to always be the one to be nice and serve them. This could be making their bed, or doing something to help them out. Physical goals could be to see a specialist to treat your acne, lose weight, get a gym membership, eating healthy, and taking better care of your health. Research shows that having a positive atttitude can have a positive affect on goal achievement.
When it comes to goals, as well as other pursuits in life, we need to have a positive attitude. Aim to always acknowledge the positive sides of things.
Service goals can be helping your family or those in your community. You can choose to serve others year round. This can also benefit your mood. Writing down how you feel after serving is a great way to see how you made a difference in the community for that year. It is also important to take care of your mental health so consider making mental health goals that can help you better yourself and your family.
Goals are great for the new year, and discussing goals with your spouse and children is a great way to bond.
Be sure to write them down and refer back to when necessary. It’s important that you and your children work toward goals together whenever possible. Not only will it build character and resilience in your children, but the relationships within the family–between spouses, between siblings, and between parent and child–will also grow closer as a result.
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