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When Extracurricular Activities Stop Being Beneficial

I know of many parents, including some of my own aunts, uncles and friends, that spend the majority of their day helping their children participate in extracurricular activities. They meticulously organize each hour of the day to accommodate and fit in each child’s separate activities. I have an aunt, for example, who, with her three young children, is constantly running around to soccer, basketball, dance, theater, gymnastics, piano, swimming, and church activities. My grandparents are often pulled in to help take them places when the two of them can’t spread themselves thin enough to cover it all. 

The oldest of their daughters described her day as “busy” and “different every day depending on the activity”. When I was a young girl, I had maybe one or two extracurricular activities and spent most of my after-school time simply playing around the neighborhood or inside with my siblings. 

So the question arises: When do extracurricular activities stop being beneficial? Let’s look at the Pros and Cons.

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Teens & Depression

Depression–or feeling sad, frustrated, and hopeless about life, accompanied by loss of pleasure in most activities and disturbances in sleep, appetite, concentration, and energy–is one of the most common psychological problems among adolescents. According to previous research done at the American Psychiatric Association in 2013, 20 to 50 percent of U.S. teenagers experience mild to moderate feelings of depression, but bounce back after a short time. What’s even more worrisome is the 15 to 20 percent of teens who have had one or more major depressive episodes. That rate is comparable to that of adults! About 5 percent of teens are chronically depressed–gloomy and self-critical for many months and sometimes years.  

Many parents wonder what causes depression. I’ve heard many parents express some of the following questions about depression:  Is it real? What causes it? Is it genetics? Is it something happening at school? Puberty? Is it my fault?

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Avoiding Teratogens in Pregnancy

The word teratogen comes from the Greek word, teras, meaning “malformation” or “monstrosity” (Berk, L., Development Through the Lifespan, p. 81). During pregnancy, it’s extremely important to take care of yourself and your baby, and many mothers don’t know about teratogens, or certain aspects of their environment that could cause damage during the prenatal period. However, many effects of teratogens go beyond immediate physical damage. Some health effects are delayed and may not show up for decades. 

Here are three of the most common teratogens.  Recognizing them and understanding their effect on your body, and that of your unborn children, will help you know what to avoid. 

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Emergency Preparedness

In February of 2017, in the middle of one of the coldest winters in years, it was also the wettest.  The water couldn’t sink into the frozen ground so it pooled. Fields quickly turned to ponds and small lakes and roads became rivers.  No one in our area had seen anything like it, and only a few were prepared for the waters. Entire roads were flushed out and homes were sunk in less than a day.  Rumors about the local dams overflowing were spreading. Even though my spouse worked for the city and assured me the rumors were false, I began to worry.

We have some camping supplies, but if we had to leave in a hurry, or even hunker down at home, we could be in trouble.  I looked at my daughter and realized I had no water storage for food or formula if needed.  

It was a wakeup call.

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How to Talk to Kids About Visiting the Doctor

For most children, experience with a doctor starts at day one. It’s probably a good thing babies can’t remember their birth. No baby, child, or adult would want to go back to the doctor if they associate the doctor or hospital with pain and discomfort.  One bad experience can set a person against it forever. But going to the doctor is essential for a person’s health.

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Answering Your Child’s Questions About Sex

The “talk” is one that many avoid, and many others hope will only require a quick fill-in of information they do not already know. For many, the “talk” that we have with our children about sexual development can be very intimidating. According to the Department of Health & Human Services (2016), many parents assume that we must talk to our children about EVERY aspect of sexual development all in one sitting. Parents hope that their children will hear everything and that any curiosity they have will dissipate. In order to more fully understand this difficult step, we must ask ourselves the basic questions that give us a clearer picture as to WHY our children are turning to sexual intercourse or inappropriate media. According to the government-funded study referenced above, anxiety almost always precedes inappropriate behavior. This anxiety is often manifested in questions linked to sexual development. These questions include the following:

  • Why is my best friend getting attention from boys?
  • What is this feeling that I feel when I see inappropriate images?

The “talk” isn’t meant to be one perfectly worded explanation of anything and everything pertaining to sex.

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Why Breastfeeding is Best and Should be Encouraged by Society

Many mothers today differ in their opinions on what’s better for their newborn: breastfeeding or bottle-feeding? Nutrition is especially crucial for development in the first two years of the baby’s life because it’s brain and body are growing so rapidly. 

Babies need both enough food and the right kind of food. In early infancy, breastfeeding is ideally suited to their needs, and bottled formulas try to imitate it. 

Today, 79% of American mothers begin breastfeeding after birth, about half stop by 6 months (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 2014a). The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services (2011) advises exclusive breastfeeding for the first 6 months and including breast milk in the baby’s diet until at least 1 year. 

Here are seven reasons to breastfeed, according to its nutritional and health advantages:

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Communicating Confidence

 

Growing up I didn’t have a very close relationship with either of my parents. To this day we don’t have very many conversations that include many words of affection, unless it’s me communicating to them. I’ve learned throughout my life the importance of having loving communication with those around me, especially with children.

Our children will remember the things we do, but more than that, they’ll remember the things we tell them, teach them, and help them to believe. As we communicate with love, we can help them to believe in themselves and gain self-confidence.

Carl Pickhardt, a psychologist and author of 15 parenting books, says a kid who lacks confidence will be reluctant to try new or challenging things because they’re scared of failing or disappointing others.

This can end up holding them back later in life and prevent them from having a successful career.

So, as parents, it’s our job to help them to love themselves while they’re young, thus securing their self-confidence in the future. This can seem like a hard task, but we can start by simply communicating confidence, or incorporating phrases that help them recognize their value and potential, thus coming to believe it. Here are a three phrases that you can start using today to begin communicating confidence:

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Benefits of Skin-to-Skin Contact During Infancy

 

When my first child was born, they immediately placed her on my bare chest for an hour of uninterrupted skin-to-skin time. At that particular hospital, they call it the “Sacred Hour”. The doctor informed my husband and me that the sacred hour meant keeping the room quiet for the baby to hear only our voices. She would be placed on my chest with no testing, cleaning, or interruptions for a whole hour. It allowed us to promptly begin bonding with our baby. “Skin-to-skin contact helps your baby stay warm, relax, transition, breathe easier, as well as promote breastfeeding” (Labor & Delivery). For us, this was a wonderful start to our bonding experience with our daughter. However, bonding does not stop after that hour ends. It is an ongoing process that happens every day you are caring for your child. “You may not even know it’s happening until you observe your baby’s first smile and suddenly realize that you’re filled with love and joy” (Ben-Joseph, 2018).

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Why We Shouldn’t Yell at Our Children and How to Stop

It is easy to become frustrated with our children when they are misbehaving, or when we have had to instruct them multiple times to do something. It’s tempting to raise our voices to let them know that we’re serious about obedience. However, the issue with yelling is that it leads to obedience due to fear.

Why is staying calm as a parent so important? For starters, we shouldn’t want our children to do something we tell them to do because they are afraid us. While this technique may work for a while when they are little, as they get older they may rebel. The care effect will begin to wear off, and the dynamic of the relationship will change. Yelling can be addictive since it can yield results. However it is not the best way to encourage good behavior because yelling comes from a place of manipulation and force.

Yelling is an easy way to gain power over a situation, by turning to anger, rather than identifying the true struggle.

Of course, refraining from ever showing anger isn’t going to be easy. Sometimes anger gets the best of everyone. However, if we want respect, respect must be given. Respect is not earned through force and fear.

To help you refrain from yelling at your children, here are some helpful tips to keep in mind as you begin new approaches to enforcing good behavior:

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