I faintly remember a discussion with my mom many years ago about marital problems. She told me there seemed to be something that happened around anniversaries #5-7. Couples were no longer in the “honeymoon phase” and often found themselves with discussions about divorce. After my own observations and research, I realized that after being married for 5-7 years, it is clear that romance is dying and couples were forgetting why they were married in the first place.
The question I ask you today is: is it possible to fall in love with your spouse all over again? Can you have the same feelings after 20 years of marriage that you did during your first? My answer to that is an enthusiastic “You bet you can!” It may take more effort after being out of the habit for a while, but it definitely can be done. It really just requires you to do the things you once did for your spouse. The things that you did solely because you loved him/her. Did you buy her gifts or send her flowers? Did you call him just to say hi and that you loved him? Did you plan romantic dates with every detail in mind and covered?
There is a song by Paramore (a newer band from the younger generations) entitled “Still Into You.” Consider some of the lyrics and decide how you are going to fall in love again with your spouse and/or keep the love alive in your marriage.
It’s not a walk in the park
To love each other
But when our fingers interlock,
Can’t deny, can’t deny you’re worth it
‘Cause after all this time I’m still into you