And so is ev’ry child.
Some are bright and happy,
And some are meek and mild.”
These are the words that are often sung in my children’s religious group on Sunday. This song teaches children that everyone is different. Do parents truly realize and remember that though? Being a parent to five children, I have seen these differences manifested many times. Sometimes I find myself trying to parent them all the same way. Just as different plants and animals require a different kind of care, so do each of our children.
Robert Plomin did some research back in the 1980’s about why siblings are so different from each other. We would think that if they share the same parents and live in the same home, there would be more similarities. “Children in the same family are more similar than children taken at random from the population,” Plomin says, “but not much more.” To read his theories about why this is so, you can read the rest of the article here.
My focus of this post is not about why siblings are different, but just to remind parents that they are. Take the time to notice each child for who they are as individuals. Give them love and attention in a way that they will understand and appreciate. Finally, let them be individuals without comparing them to each other. Every person has their own strengths and weaknesses and as parents, we are here to help our children develop and make them stronger.
To hear the song mentioned at the beginning, feel free to go to this website!