It is natural to want to protect your children from anything negative in this world. It can be taken too far though. Not only will you prevent your child from experiencing what could be important and life-changing experiences, you can create a fear in them that whatever your fear is should be their own fear as well. For example, because I have a fear of heights, I naturally will keep my children away from high places because it is scary for me, personally. All this is doing is telling my children that they should be afraid of heights. Does that make sense?
What can we do about this? It is natural for everyone of all ages to have fears. Is it right to instill our fears into our children though? Or should we let them experience life and find their fears on their own? It can be so hard to let go of our children and let them see the world through their own eyes. How do we do it?
Let go and allow your children to fall, make mistakes, experience rejection, feel jealousy and suffer defeat.
Let go and watch them grow in confidence, skill, responsibility and emotional intelligence as they learn from all life has to offer them.
Let go of your attachment to be an overprotective parent and find constructive ways to release yourself from your fears before you give them to your children. Get professional help if your fearfulness is debilitating.”