With the start of each new year, many people contemplate the goals they want to accomplish. A journal is a great place to write down our goals. There are several different areas in your life in which setting goals would be beneficial to you and your family. Some examples include
Sometimes goals can be stressful or we don’t think we will complete them. If we take it one day at a time we can complete them, we have to also work on them. Education goals could be finishing up school, or starting college. For one of your children, an education goal might be to raise his or her grade point average. Career could mean you want to get promoted, so you could see what you could do to earn that. Switching jobs also might be an option. Financial goals might be to pay off your debt in a certain amount of time, or create an emergency savings account. Psychology today says, “Research shows that actually setting a specific goal makes us more likely to achieve the things we want, and is important especially when we want to make a change.”
Family goals can be things you want for your family to achieve with each member having the opportunity to contribute. The ACPeds Lead Your Family to Good Health page is a good place to start looking for family health goals you may want your family to to beging working on. Examples include
- Strengthen your family by nurturing your marriage. Invest TIME with your spouse: dates, walks/strolls, talk time, etc. Your child will benefit.
- Teach good sleep habits by having a regular bedtime routine with a reasonable “lights out” time. No TV in the bedroom, please!
- Teach and practice healthful family eating habits. Limit fast food. Serve vegetables and fruit at meals and snacks daily. Model healthful eating yourself.
- Turn the television off often and limit total screen time (TV, video games, computer) to no more than 1-2 hours per day. You’ll be pleased with the conversations that develop.
- Get outside with your child. Take a walk in the neighborhood, go fishing, go cycling, play a recreational sport, plant a garden . . .
- Be involved in your child’s life. Coach a team, drive car pool, be a room mom or dad, teach Sunday School, get to know his/her friends . . .
- Protect your child’s mind. Monitor TV programs, scrutinize movies (even at a friend’s home), and place an Internet filter on your computer.
Attitude goals can include trying not to get upset or angry at your family or finding more ways you can be nice to your family. If your family does not serve you, you can choose to always be the one to be nice and serve them. This could be making their bed, or doing something to help them out. Physical goals could be to see a specialist to treat your acne, lose weight, get a gym membership, eating healthy, and taking better care of your health. Research shows that having a positive atttitude can have a positive affect on goal achievement.
When it comes to goals, as well as other pursuits in life, we need to have a positive attitude. Aim to always acknowledge the positive sides of things.
Service goals can be helping your family or those in your community. You can choose to serve others year round. This can also benefit your mood. Writing down how you feel after serving is a great way to see how you made a difference in the community for that year. It is also important to take care of your mental health so consider making mental health goals that can help you better yourself and your family.
Goals are great for the new year, and discussing goals with your spouse and children is a great way to bond.
Be sure to write them down and refer back to when necessary. It’s important that you and your children work toward goals together whenever possible. Not only will it build character and resilience in your children, but the relationships within the family–between spouses, between siblings, and between parent and child–will also grow closer as a result.
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