Resilience

resilienceDue to inclement weather, the flight had been cancelled. Everywhere in the waiting area of the airport were heard the sounds of many complaints. Some people were frustrated, some resigned, and some were very angry. Off in one corner sat a mother and her two young children, tired, hungry, and a little frightened at the thought of having to sleep in the airport on the floor, or walking through the snowy night to find accommodations. But this mother put her arms around her children and gathered them close. She smiled and whispered to them excitedly, “This is what they call an adventure!”

As parents, we can teach our children to be resilient. According to Lyle J. Burrup (2013) of LDS Family Services:

How well children respond to setbacks depends largely on how well their parents helped them develop the attitudes and the skills of resilience. As children become resilient, they…see life as challenging and ever changing, but they believe they can cope with those challenges and changes. They view mistakes and weaknesses as opportunities to learn, and they accept that losing may precede winning.

They believe they can influence and even control outcomes in their lives through effort, imagination, knowledge, and skill. With this attitude, they focus on what they can do rather than on what is outside their control.

As we raise our children, we should set the example of tackling setbacks and viewing them with a positive attitude, and maybe even with some humor and fun. After all, don’t most of the best stories you like to tell begin with something that went wrong? “Remember when we accidentally set fire to the garage…” “Wasn’t that hilarious when the steering wheel came off while you were driving…” “Let me tell you about when I got chased by a bear…”

As that young mother said, “This is what they call an adventure!”

https://www.lds.org/ensign/2013/03/raising-resilient-children?lang=eng

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