What Children Really Need – Part 2

This is part two to the post explaining what children really need (see part 1 here). Below are the next three rights Carlson says children deserve.

Each child has the right to a home built on marriage.

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Research has come to the conclusion that

“children are most likely to be healthy, happy, well-behaved, and responsible; most likely to succeed in school and in life; and least likely to be promiscuous, delinquent, or users of alcohol and illegal drugs if they live with their two natural parents who, in turn, are lawfully married.”

A good home is one that puts children at the center of daily life and allows them to help with the household work, where parents are the “prime educators” and start teaching moral values early on, and it allows for appropriate autonomy and authority. Marriage brings a man and a woman together that each bring complementary gifts to the union. One study found that the bonds wives formed with one another in a neighborhood reduced the rate of violent crime. Fathers in the homes of the same neighborhoods were found to protect against out-of-wedlock births. So “a husband and a wife complement each other; each marital partner brings unique talents to the building of a home, so that it becomes greater than the sum of its parts.”

Each child has the right to siblings.

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The growing trend in developed nations is to only have one child.

Siblings are “critically important in shaping for the good the moral and psychological character of children.”

Those who are an only child have been found to be more likely to disrupt the classroom and display more behavior problems in learning, impulsivity, hyperactivity, and anxiety. Sibling relationships are also the longest blood relationship that people can experience. These attachments keep growing over the years if they are given the opportunity to occur through the birth of a sibling.

Each child has the right to ancestors.

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Children who know about their ancestors have a greater sense of “emotional wholeness and personal security.” It also helps them develop a sense of purpose and meaning to life if they are connected to their ancestors, their living family, and their future descendants. Children love to hear and share family stories, so we should tell our children stories from our own past and stories from our ancestors’ lives.

Though research supports that children benefit from siblings, married parents and a connection to extended family, parents sometimes have contrary views.

What do you think about the “rights” of children listed above?


For the full article see:

http://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1064&context=marriageandfamilies

Images from: http://assets.nydailynews.com/polopoly_fs/1.1697705!img/httpImage/babies-getty-jpg.jpg, http://www.wisegeek.org/what-are-the-various-levels-of-cousins.htm, https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=images&cd=&ved=0ahUKEwjDyqDEkMLSAhXGZiYKHUMmB1kQjxwIAw&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.theworldofchinese.com%2F2015%2F04%2Fchinese-family-titles%2F&bvm=bv.148747831,d.eWE&psig=AFQjCNHgsVE7S5Smkys5s5Hqg38OPYCvJQ&ust=1488897794733006

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